Most Helpful Girl
This is happening cause you and her some part of you is stuck in the past when you and her were in the relationship that's why both are still on to each other live instead moving
None of you two had that right time to move on for the relationship phase and had the talk don't be stuck in the past focus on your future
Ask yourself this 》is she worth it, do I see myself with her, does she right now give me more pain then joy, can I live a life without her, if she want us to work she wouldn't make it this hard?
If it met to be (in anything in life can be work relationship family or friends) then it wouldn't be this hard
Hope this works