You're basicaly high school drop out who just got his act together in his late 20's. You're attractive, have a hobby but not many friends.
While on the first date:
- You're shaking and nervous
- You comment on how gorgeous she is and her body (so you find her pretty attctive)
- You touch her numerous times
- Want to know about her life in depth, tell her about yours in depth
You discover, not only is she young, confident, fit/attractive, but she's smart and on her way to a Phd. She stylish, dresses classly but is also down to earth. Knows a lot of people, is busy all the time with friends and hobbies etc. She makes good conversation and is more than happy with her life at the moment.
Would you feel completly inadequate? Would this be enough to actually make you dislike her when you liked her so much previously.
At the end, you ask her numerous times if she'd like to go out again, you are nervous going in for a kiss. You message her that evening the next etc. tell her it was an amazing date, tell her again you'd love to see her etc. 2 more days and then switch.
TLDR: Can you put a woman on a pedastal so high that you dislike her becasue you don't feel like you match up?
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I am almost exactly like you. I have a bachelor's degree and will be working on my master's degree. So I will answer this. Most men will feel intimidated mainly because of traditional definitions of masculinity, which are still very rooted in our thinking. They ARE disappearing but they HAVE NOT FULLY. The question I ask you is would you be alright with dating a man with less education than you, that makes less money in the future, and less fit than you.
You have to understand that most people in general are not like you. It is rational to expect your men to be on "your level". However, it is not likely you will find a man on that level because the bar is incredibly high. The reason why I asked you those questions above is because if you are like most women you want your man to be exactly like you which is, like I said is RATIONAL. However, since you have set the bar that high since you are an incredibly rare woman, you have reinforced traditional ideologies of masculinity. Therefore you man must feel like he is "traditionally" masculine. This mean he wants to earn more, be more educated, and more fit. This is why he will get intimidated when you are can dethrone him from his provider role. Assuming you reinforce the ideologies of traditional masculinity. Do you?1
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