I am so upset right now because nobody wants me. i am angry that i feel like breaking my computer and i cannot control my emotions after being rejected so much in my life. i dont know what to do with myself
Most Helpful Guy
I'm a black dude (just wanted to say that first).
Pessimism, and negative energy in women, is a turn off to almost all men.
That is the reason why u lose out to girls with a "bubbly personality". A bubbly personality comes off as more feminine, and less pessimistic/negative, than a more stoic girl.
One thing u said did make me curious.
What exactly do u mean by "not being able to 'get away with ' being laid back or having a bubbly personality due to being a dark skinned black woman"?
I never heard of this mentality before.
I've known dark skinned black women with bubbly personalities, and they didn't have trouble getting guys of various ethnic groups. :)
Most Helpful Girl
Maybe because you take these things so seriously.
You seem so frustrated about things like guys not liking you that you might not seem fun to hang out with at all.
Is this amount of anger justified for something so small?
I understand how bad it must be to feel rejected, but you need to understand you can't always be the prettiest girl in the room. There will be someone prettier, or smarter, or funnier, but that shouldn't hurt you.
Work on you, do things that make you happy, be successful, and guys will run after you like crazy. But don't do all those things just for the guys.
You'll realize that being "attractive" is overrated, and you'd rather just have someone who likes you for you.