I was talking to this guy for 3 weeks up until yesterday. I REALLYYY like this guy, like this is the first time i've ever had a real connection with someone who wasn't a celebrity or in another state. Well i'm not really shy, I just don't talk a lot because I don't always have much to say. Apparently that was a dealbreaker for him and he said he was no longer interested because i'm too shy and seemed disinterested when we went to the movies. Background: four of my friends warned me he was no good; he is a player, will talk to multiple girls, blah blah blah. He told me he'd take me to prom then told my friend he was going w/ a 15 year old girl from another school (He's 19 and now her dad won't let them talk...). I was devestated, then happy, and I don't know. Sometimes it seemed as if I was the only one and other times it felt like I wasn't. He would also text my friend flirtatious stuff but whatever. Now that he isn't interested I feel like my world is crashing around me. I feel so sick knowing I have no chance with him. I used to eat lunch with him, and talk to him in the halls but now I can't because i feel like i'm annoying him. (I haven't texted him since he rejected me and i've sent two snaps, both in which he has not replied.) I sit with my friends, right behind him at lunch and I was so tempted today to talk to him A LOT so he'd change his mind but I didn't. Now I really want to text him. What to do?
- Leave him aloneVote A
- Talk to himVote B
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I say talk to him, but not to try to get him to change his mind or with any ulterior motive, just as a friend. I liked a good friend of mine for three years before I asked her out, to which she at first said yes but then said something changed and no. I was absolutely devastated, but between letting myself see the reasons it is best we didn't date and continuing to be friends, we're really good now, even though there is virtually no chance of us ever being more than friends0