So we are both in school. My friend and I like the same girl. We aren't best friends but definitely someone I hangout with and talk to. I like her and I don't think he knows. I found out today he likes her too. I was going to ask her out but I don't want to if it's going to hurt him. I'm just not that kind of a person. I would like some advice on what I should do? Have any of you been in the same situation? Any tips?
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It's compassionate of you to consider your friends feelings.
I would talk to him first, I suppose. Then weigh how much you like this girl vs. how much pain it might cause your friend. Ultimately, unless you were just out for a fling with her and your friend would be devastated, I would probably ask her out.
By the way, it happened to me twice in my life that friends of mine did start dating girls I liked. It hurt like hell. Normally, if I'm rejected I just distance myself. However, I couldn't do that without distancing myself from my friends. I decided it would be awful to lose a friend, so I just had to tough it out. I am still friends with both of them0