I guess it depends on one's definition of damaged, but I really don't understand what the issue is. Do you only want to date people with clean, happy pasts, no personal problems? Firstly that's hard to find. Secondly, why? I don't know about you but I can't relate to someone who's never been "damaged" in any way. That's life. Falling down and scraping your knee. I understand not wanting to be with someone who obviously has serious issues that manifest themselves in instability and a lack of ability to maintain relationships and such, but just someone who's been hurt, made a few mistakes, been through some hell- what's so awful about that?
I've been hurt, I've been through -a lot-, etc, but that doesn't make me defective in any way. It actually makes me a stronger person with more insight and appreciation for the good times.
So what's your take on this? Do you only want to date someone with a white picket fence past?
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I do not think any one should be described as "damaged goods". You are dating a person now because you like them, sure everyone has a history, but does that really make them damaged? I honestly do not care unless she has some super serious issues like you described. Personally I have not been through a lot, but everyone has usually been through something.