I'm trying really hard to talk to guys my age but none seem interested or we just never have good conversations like I do with older men.
Plus it seems guys my age only what me when I'm all dolled up and glamorous looking. Otherwise it's like I don't exist but older men seem to be OK with my usual plain lo
Guys at my school just friendzone me while older men hit on me and make advances
Most Helpful Guy
Find men who act more like older men. Maybe you can find a young guy who is the youngest in his group of friends, but hangs out with older guys and relates to them a lot.
Also, if you're going to take an interest in younger guys who are in a social circle containing a lot of older, more successful men, make sure to give that younger guys some special attention and possitive cues so he'll know he has a shot with you. Younger guys sometimes feel intimidated when competing with older, wealthier, more established men, unless something is done to make them feel like they have a chance with the girl in question.
And younger guys probably won't need you to wear makeup continually, its more the first impression that matters. So long as they rememer how you can look, how you do look on a casual basis is less important.1
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Most Helpful Girl
You're probably just very mature for your age. And that's a good thing!
I don't see a problem with getting to know and potentially dating men three years older than yourself, but a decade is pushing it a bit. I had friends who dated men much older, and often, in the end, these men were often ones who specifically seeked younger women, because they liked to be in control in the relationship. This is a generalisation however. But just be careful.
I can imagine that you probably come across as responsible, which is probably quite rare amongst people your own age. Most guys at 20 don't respect responsibility and maturity, many are just looking to "have a good time", and many probably don't feel ready for serious relationships yet, so when they come across a girl who seems mature, they will often run in the opposite direction.
However in saying that, there are guys out there who do value maturity, and girls they can have deeper conversations with. These guys are just a rare find. So please please don't change to attract someone, and never drop your standards, ever. Just concentrate on trying to build friendships with guys similar in age to yourself, and see what happens. They will mature more over the next couple of years.
Would you be happy to answer my most recent question too? :)1