- I would pursue something with the guy/girl I like.
- I would back off. friends come first.
- other. EXPLAIN BELOW.
What would you do if you found out your friend was crushing on the same person as you, and that guy/girl likes YOU?
What Guys Said 16
The girl would like me, I think my friend would understand if I pursued her. I would understand if the situation were the inverse, I can't force anyone like me.
I'd probably go for it.
It's easy to say stuff like "bros before ho's" but whoever came up with that was probably not in a stable relationship... ever.
Most of the time, unless there's something clearly tangible between a guy and a girl, it's every man for himself and anything goes.
bros before hoes or whatever bullcrap that line is..
Survival of the fittest. I ain't about to let him have it. I'm surprised at the number of B votes by women. I admire women sometimes :)
I might talk to my friend about it first as a courtesy, but it wouldn't stop me pursuing her. If we both like her one of us might as well be with her, there's no point in us both being unhappy, if she prefers me (and in your scenario doesn't like him at all), then it makes sense for me to pursue it. That we she and I will be happy and he'll get over it in time. It's obviously unfortunate for my my friend, but the alternative is for the three of us to be unhappy, so it's the rational choice. I'd expect him to do the same if the roles were reversed (I've experienced that before, but not your scenario).
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What Girls Said 11
I'd talk to my friend, lay out the situation and ask if she's ok with me pursuing it. If she's not, I'd probably question how good of a friend she really is...
Sorry bitch, this one's mine. Just kidding. I would talk to her about it and if she didn't want me to date him then I wouldn't. Girl code.
If she's seriously interested in him , then yeah I'd back off. I would definitely talk to her about the situation and wouldn't secretly pursue him behind her back.
She no competition to me boo boo
guys come and go, but friends stay forever!
Well, if my friend and I hadn't agreed we wouldn't pursue him then I would
I would pursue the guy. Of course, it's not fair to my friend and I would say I'm sorry. But it's not like it's my fault that he has feelings for me over her. If I back off then both my friend and I PLUS the guy would be unhappy. I would try to help her find a new crush. This is one of those times where I would say, "Hey, life isn't fair."
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