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I'm 31 (can't figure out how to correct age on profile). I would date a guy with a couple of kids but it does help that men don't usually have custody which is a plus but if he did have custody I would still consider.
That said the first and most important thing is to really spend sometime getting to know each other one on one and seeing where things are going to go before bringing the kid into the picture.
As long as you are passed your party days and want kids down the road I think you'll find that you fall in love with that little girl pretty quick. And then all that other stuff is less of a chore because she is adorable and you like spending time with her. Babies are hard but 4 is such a good age.
The hard part of dating someone with a kid is that you are not their first priority. Dates will be cancelled, kids get sick, she can't go on long trips and there may be Daddy drama from time to time. Get to know each other and figure out if you can deal with these realities before playing house.