Most Helpful Guy
Holding hands shouldn't be an issue, in my opinion. Holding hands could just be a signal that a guy likes you (and you reciprocating a signal that you like him back).
Totally get the cuddling issue though (depending on the cuddling). Some guys, understand, might put their arm around the back of your chair as a protectiveness/familiarity signal. But if it's actual cuddling or you feel like it's intimate (but like you said, *not* sexual), casually asking might not be a bad idea. He might not answer or might get a little scared off or might have to evaluate his own feelings, but here's the point...
If you have boundaries with a guy, you need to make those boundaries clear in as nice a way as possible (and firmly if necessary). That means making it clear that sex is totally out of the question (good for you, btw). Or R-rated movies. Or whatever you are uncomfortable with. Personally, I'd find a girl I was dating not wanting to hold hands a little odd as hand-holding strikes me as more testing the waters or flirtatious (in a positive way, usually). But if a girl wanted to make sure I was at least somewhat committed to seeing where the relationship went (i. e. boyfriend status!) before letting me put my arm around her, I'd understand that.
Bottom line: If you want to set a boundary, set the boundary. Just understand that the guy might not understand. Your explanation makes sense to me at least though.
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Most Helpful Girl
Yes, many do.