Would you date someone with a child?

Question pretty much says it all. I personally wouldn't date someone with a child. Would you?
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  • I married a woman with 2 kids and we now have two of our own.

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    • That's awesome! :)

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    • Beautiful :-) :-)

    • That's so sweet of you :)

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What Guys Said 42

  • I respect single mothers but at this point in my life I can't see myself ever doing that. I'd feel the need to contribute and be a constant part of the kids' life. I love kids but if we break up I have to consider the children's feeling if we got close and the whole situation gets messy.

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    • Yep completely agree.

    • I think that's why its best to keep the child out of the relationship until it gets serious. That way you can date without having to make your partner feel overwhelmed and if it doesn't work out the child's feelings aren't hurt either.

  • I don't want kids anyway, so no, i definitely wouldn't. Even if i did want kids someday, i wouldn't want to have kids that had another father.

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  • Unlikely.

    If we're dating, I assume she expects me to take a role of a father of her child sooner or later. She probably won't state it out loud, but this is what she wants deep down inside.

    This is a bit of a problem. It's terrible to grow up in incomplete family and indeed a child needs both parents, however, there's a slight problem:
    You see, when a woman is pregnant, her man goes through some emotional roller coaster as well, he adjusts himself to a thought he's about to become a father, is nervous about the pregnancy no less than a woman is etc. During this pretty much he much come to a conclusion: does he REALLY wants this child or not.
    If not, you all know stories where a guy would break up with a woman during her pregnancy.
    If he's neutral, he's going to be a pretty much "whatever" dad, the one that does takes care of basic needs of a child (shelter, food, clothes etc), but doesn't really cares about it that much in order to take heavy role in child's development.
    If yes, it's very likely he's going to become an awesome dad.

    So when a man meets a woman that already has kids, 2 problems may arise that a man probably won't notice / won't think of at first.
    1.) A child may or may not sometimes remind a man that there was another man in woman's life. Sure, we're not stupid and we know that pretty much every woman had another man in her life, but we're trying not to think about it. A child is basically a walking reminder.
    2.) A man skips the stage of preparation of becoming a father, thus his chances of becoming a good, caring step dad are rather low. Exceptions exist, but they are rare.

    So that's why I personally wouldn't date a woman with a child. I don't want to give her false hopes, nor I think I'd be able to adjust a kid I have no connections with whatsoever.

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  • I don't think I would just because I'm 24 and just don't think I'm at that stage in my life right now.

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  • Most likely, no. Unless she's a widow, I don't see the point of being with a woman that has a child. How am I to know if what she says about the child's father are lies? I know some women don't lie, but some do.

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  • The older you get, the more likely you will be willing to date someone with kids already. Heck, the more likely it is that the women (and men!) have kids already as you get older.

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  • Don't want to have to deal with someone else's mess and children. Besides, the husband is not the primary and maybe even secondary concern to the wife/mother. The kids are first and I wouldn't be surprised if the husband is sharing fruit roll ups with the child.

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  • If you love someone it shouldn't matter if they're a single parent.

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  • my heart: yes
    my mind: nope. not gonna happen.
    i love kids, but only if they are from my genes and their mothers.

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  • I wouldn't be able to see her face knowing she did all that I like girls who are innocent and cute and takes sex seriously and would only do it for love and reproduction. I wouldn't love her. I wouldn't be able to take this loving relationship to the next level if she had a son. It's impossible

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    • Really? You don't need to sleep around often to get pregnant. My boyfriend was my first. We did it out of love and reproduction literally he was my first kiss and everything. A child doesn't make you "less innocent". You can look and act innocent and be the biggest hoebag haha

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  • No, I don't think I would, at least not at this point in my life. I don't want the whole "family" thing right now. I'm still in college and focusing on myself and my future career so it wouldn't really be fair to the other person. If I were older and already established in my career then my answer would probably be different.

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  • Deal breaker, I don't come with baggage so I'd like to date someone without it too. I LOVE KIDS but not all kids have kind and understanding mommas.

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    • Everyone has baggage of one kind or another.

    • Yeah I agree. Even if you don't have kids you still will have baggage that you both will bring. Some less, some more. I don't really consider a child as "baggage"

  • Hell no.
    I don't want a constant reminder that his d*ck has been in some other girl's p*ssy. -_- Plus his ex would ALWAYS be in the picture. No thank you.

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  • I dated a guy with a 2 year old son. I wasn't looking for that kind of commitment, but I grew to really care for both. Then he used me and cheated with 2 other women. I know that has nothing to with the child, but I don't think I would want to try again. Maybe when I am older I might be, but definitely not at this point in my life.

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  • I'd be cautious about it at first.. I wouldn't want him to get too attatched to me and introduce me to his kid if i wasn't really feeling it, and I wouldn't want to get to attatched to him too fast because obviously his kid needs to come first and since thats not something im used to it would take some time for me to adjust. But i definitely wouldn't turn a guy down just because he had a kid!

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  • I hope that someone wouldn't rule me out just because of my kids but it sounds like realistically most would! 😢😯

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    • This site is very biased. Although I'm with my child's father I still attract men while I was pregnant and after. You will be fine :)

    • I'm thinking the same thing, it's sad how many people on here would judge someone just because they have kids.

  • I thought you once said you had a child?

    I'm those types people to think, parents mix with parents. Singles mix with singles. No mix and match.

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    • Yes I do have a child and I prefer to date anyone who doesn't have a child. Dealing with the other parent is hard enough. If they didn't want to date me I can understand

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    • "But the thing is you are willing to let your partner cope with something you, yourself, won't. That's the problem."

      Well you missed my point. So let's agree to disagree.

    • I see your point but I agree. Let's just agree to disagree

  • By the looks of the opinions on here, I'm never going to have a boyfriend

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    • Girl please yes you will! This place is very biased. I still get men approaching me with my child. you will be fine :) there are plenty of people out there that don't mind. Best of luck

  • My bestfriend's dad passed away from a sudden heart attack, and her mom was in a serious relationship within a year. Her boyfriend soon became her fiancé. No one ever thought he would settle down, and he was already in his mid 40s. This was hard for my friend, she didn't approve of the relationship.
    However he did something most men wouldn't do. He took on a teenager and a child, in order to be with the woman he loved. I have ever since admired him for that as my friend is probably the most rebellious teenager i know.
    His father-figure has helped the family grow stronger and stick together through difficult times. He helped them move on.

    I therefore think I would date someone with children, if I loved the man and was absolutely sure that I would end up with him.

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  • I'm in love with a guy who's going to be a father (they're not together). She has another boyfriend and he doesn't want to involve me in all that. But I'd do anything to be with him and I guess when he's going to be a father that won't change, unless they get together again.

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