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Would you date someone with a child?
What Guys Said 42
I respect single mothers but at this point in my life I can't see myself ever doing that. I'd feel the need to contribute and be a constant part of the kids' life. I love kids but if we break up I have to consider the children's feeling if we got close and the whole situation gets messy.4
I don't want kids anyway, so no, i definitely wouldn't. Even if i did want kids someday, i wouldn't want to have kids that had another father.2
If we're dating, I assume she expects me to take a role of a father of her child sooner or later. She probably won't state it out loud, but this is what she wants deep down inside.
This is a bit of a problem. It's terrible to grow up in incomplete family and indeed a child needs both parents, however, there's a slight problem:
You see, when a woman is pregnant, her man goes through some emotional roller coaster as well, he adjusts himself to a thought he's about to become a father, is nervous about the pregnancy no less than a woman is etc. During this pretty much he much come to a conclusion: does he REALLY wants this child or not.
If not, you all know stories where a guy would break up with a woman during her pregnancy.
If he's neutral, he's going to be a pretty much "whatever" dad, the one that does takes care of basic needs of a child (shelter, food, clothes etc), but doesn't really cares about it that much in order to take heavy role in child's development.
If yes, it's very likely he's going to become an awesome dad.
So when a man meets a woman that already has kids, 2 problems may arise that a man probably won't notice / won't think of at first.
1.) A child may or may not sometimes remind a man that there was another man in woman's life. Sure, we're not stupid and we know that pretty much every woman had another man in her life, but we're trying not to think about it. A child is basically a walking reminder.
2.) A man skips the stage of preparation of becoming a father, thus his chances of becoming a good, caring step dad are rather low. Exceptions exist, but they are rare.
So that's why I personally wouldn't date a woman with a child. I don't want to give her false hopes, nor I think I'd be able to adjust a kid I have no connections with whatsoever.0
I don't think I would just because I'm 24 and just don't think I'm at that stage in my life right now.4
Most likely, no. Unless she's a widow, I don't see the point of being with a woman that has a child. How am I to know if what she says about the child's father are lies? I know some women don't lie, but some do.2
The older you get, the more likely you will be willing to date someone with kids already. Heck, the more likely it is that the women (and men!) have kids already as you get older.1
Don't want to have to deal with someone else's mess and children. Besides, the husband is not the primary and maybe even secondary concern to the wife/mother. The kids are first and I wouldn't be surprised if the husband is sharing fruit roll ups with the child.0
If you love someone it shouldn't matter if they're a single parent.7
my heart: yes
my mind: nope. not gonna happen.
i love kids, but only if they are from my genes and their mothers.2
I wouldn't be able to see her face knowing she did all that I like girls who are innocent and cute and takes sex seriously and would only do it for love and reproduction. I wouldn't love her. I wouldn't be able to take this loving relationship to the next level if she had a son. It's impossible0
Hell yeah, as long as I am financially ready lol.
But, she has to be open with having one with me though. I've always wanted a kid of my "own" so to speak.
Gotta keep the lineage going lol1
Yes. It happened twice in my family and both relationships worked.1
No, I don't look forward to becoming a potential father figure.2
Not a chance, I don't even want to have kids of my own let alone raise someone elses. I could do something sexual if she was down for that, but no further because I can't stand kids.0
I tried it once but never again. Relationships are already hard enough without kids.2
Yep, I'm separated with a child of my own. So, hopefully women are open-minded to me too.2
What we all have learned today was that women are more likely to date men with kids than the other way around.1
Honestly, no. I want my own kids, I don't want to be a stepdad.0
I wouldn't. I'll feel like an adulterer and I don't like that idea.1
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What Girls Said 33
No, I don't think I would, at least not at this point in my life. I don't want the whole "family" thing right now. I'm still in college and focusing on myself and my future career so it wouldn't really be fair to the other person. If I were older and already established in my career then my answer would probably be different.4
I don't want a constant reminder that his d*ck has been in some other girl's p*ssy. -_- Plus his ex would ALWAYS be in the picture. No thank you.3
I dated a guy with a 2 year old son. I wasn't looking for that kind of commitment, but I grew to really care for both. Then he used me and cheated with 2 other women. I know that has nothing to with the child, but I don't think I would want to try again. Maybe when I am older I might be, but definitely not at this point in my life.3
I'd be cautious about it at first.. I wouldn't want him to get too attatched to me and introduce me to his kid if i wasn't really feeling it, and I wouldn't want to get to attatched to him too fast because obviously his kid needs to come first and since thats not something im used to it would take some time for me to adjust. But i definitely wouldn't turn a guy down just because he had a kid!0
By the looks of the opinions on here, I'm never going to have a boyfriend2
My bestfriend's dad passed away from a sudden heart attack, and her mom was in a serious relationship within a year. Her boyfriend soon became her fiancé. No one ever thought he would settle down, and he was already in his mid 40s. This was hard for my friend, she didn't approve of the relationship.
However he did something most men wouldn't do. He took on a teenager and a child, in order to be with the woman he loved. I have ever since admired him for that as my friend is probably the most rebellious teenager i know.
His father-figure has helped the family grow stronger and stick together through difficult times. He helped them move on.
I therefore think I would date someone with children, if I loved the man and was absolutely sure that I would end up with him.3
I'm in love with a guy who's going to be a father (they're not together). She has another boyfriend and he doesn't want to involve me in all that. But I'd do anything to be with him and I guess when he's going to be a father that won't change, unless they get together again.0
I've never wanted kids and at this point in my life I couldn't date someone with kids. Maybe when I'm older, but now it's a deal breaker.2
Sure. I love kids. I wouldn't rule someone out just because they have them. I come from a blended family. My mom and dad met when I was barely 2yrs old. Got married when I was 5. With my dad (yes he's my dad, in every way it counts) I got 3 sisters. Blood couldn't make us any closer. My parents are divorced now unfortunately, but that didn't change a thing between me and my dad or my sisters. And I just recently lost one. Think it hurt any less? Absolutely not.
I personally don't mind if someone has a child. If I'm into them then I'll be open.3
People say ' never say never'... but I'm not a fan of that - dating people with kids. It just feels weirdly wrong.0
I have, it's okay. Not for me, so I probably wouldn't do it again.1
I don't even want my own kids
So I don't wanna date someone with kids2
I'd rather not, but I can't say definitely no. It depends how old the child is.1
I wouldn't. To much potential for drama. I also don't plan on being baby mama two, three, four or any other number.0
No. I wouldn't. I wouldn't want to deal with the "baby mama drama" or anything like that.0
as much as id like the guy, i couldn't do that. I'm waiting for a virgin myself.0
I'm not in a phase of my life where I can handle kids.0
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