One of my ex's said i base too much of my actions off feelings and that I should just find a nice person and choose to love them. How does that even work? If i dont feel passion for someone I end up looking for a new person instantly. Isn't that settling?
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That's the difference between falling in love, and loving someone.
You can love your mom, your cat, your sister, your best friend. You can love a guy who is good to you, over time. You can choose to be with him because it's logically a good decision, and in time, because of his behavior, you'll unconsciously start having some feelings towards him, love him. But in the manner you'll love any other good person from your life.
Falling in love is that thing who involves passion, stomach butterflies, drama, desire etc. It's the one thing who keep 2 people together so many years! When you'll see 2 older people, still holding hands and laughing at each other, you should know that they fell in love at first, and then start loving each other. Because falling is something that happens without your will. It doesn't matter if he's good, if he's right. It's just the one for you. And if you can actually have a relationship with him, the one you fell in love with and then start loving him, you can be sure nothing in this world will ever separate the two of you.
So yes, you can choose the one you want to love, but you can never choose the one you'll fall in love with.0