If a guy came up to me and aks me out, especially if i didn't know him, i would probably say no, even if i found him attractive. Maybe its juts my culture, but i dont think i have heard about anyone that is from where im from, male or female, that just randomly walked up to someone they found cute and asked them out. And i belive thats the reason i would be uncomfortable with it.
So thats why im a bit unsure about what guys actually prefer and/or want. Im kinda sick of being alone and just sitting and waiting for guys to approach me (they rarely do anyway) and i would like to try it, and be activ and changing my lovelife. But i just need to know if i can come across as too agressiv or something
Most Helpful Guy
Absolutely we do. It is refreshing when the woman comes after us. Unfortunately while women want to be equals, they don't want to be when it comes to relationships (asking and pursuing) and paying the check for the date.
It is odd your statement about not going out with someone that just asks you out.
That is the whole point of dating... For me I don't know any women other then family so I can only approach strangers. Although I do it online. But online dating is the same concept. Your approaching someone you don't know.
How would you ever have anyone do date if not for strangers?
Most Helpful Girl
I think some of them do. I also think that most wouldn't mind it.
What I have seemed to gather is this--Apparently men are objectified in many other areas of life EXCEPT when it comes to intimacy or being seen as attractive. So for women to approach them and make this known, it makes them feel good and they like it (even though objectification can be down-right insulting, they simply don't get enough of this from women being attracted to them to care). This is what I have seen many men say and it makes sense.
I don't know where you are, but I think that that is a very bad decision for you to do--reject a man based off of the fact that he approached you. You two would have gotten to know each other while on dating, so if your approach is to establish a friendship with a guy BEFORE he can ask you out, I don't think that works too well.
You seem to want to get out of your comfort zone, so I would say go ahead and approach a guy that you find attractive AS WELL AS agree to a date to a guy that you find attractive. :D