There's so many missteps and so many ways to do it wrong, they're all buzzing around my head when all I wanna do is take that cute redhead back home. How do I forget about all this shit and spit game lol. I mean objectification, and consideration and sexism and 70 cents to the dollar. In the end you don't want a guy who's tiptoe in around you though but all the rules are just buzzing around my head and I end up basically castration myself to fit into what I'm supposed to be as a polite man. But like shit... I'm not even that damn polite. I just fucking empathize with those stories from wronged women a ton and I can't not. How do I block out all that positive conditioning and just be a man?
Most Helpful Girl
Is treating a girl respectfully an unmanly thing to do now?
Just focus on getting to know her as an individual and you won't have to worry about gender issues. At the end of the day all most of us want is someone who values us as people and then we can build from there :)0
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Most Helpful Guy
Here's what you do. Take that shit, put it in a nice category in your mind labeled "gender issues."
Now, start seeing people as the same. Women get confused about their roles, get nervous, don't want to ask people out, etc. etc.
They're human beings with their own set of issues just like guys. Sometimes the exact same as guys. They face very similar issues outside of their gender issues, and you experience issues in your own gender too.
Stop trying to factor it in. Remove it from dating and meeting women.
Just treat them how you'd want to be treated. Give them clear signs you're interested and if you get nothing back, move on.
Use your empathy. Think about how you'd feel in a similar situation. Don't focus on yourself, and don't focus on her. Just focus on the situation.
Interact with people like they're your fellow human beings. Women like that. If it seems right, go for it. Have some confidence that you know right from wrong and can use it.1