I was very shy and insecure until i was about 18-19, and until then i haven't really talked to any guys. I have had guy friends, but other then that i got extremely nervous around any guy. When i was around 18-19 i would fool around with guys at clubs (making out with them) and i did see this one guy, but he was a loser to say it like that, and the only reason i was even seeing him was because he was the first guy to really show interest in me in addition to me having extremely low self esteem.
After i moved to go to uni i met this guy, and i thought we were dating. When i think about im not a 100% sure what we did, but i really liked him until he started acting like a douche. And the you have the guys that think im easy, and you have the guys that wants to date me, but i dont find them attractive, and then you have the guys that only want sex from me. And you can't forget the guys i want, but that doesn't want me (dont want to date me at least) ofc
So i dont know what to do, its really diffcult to not think its something im doing or saying that makes so many of the guys only wanting me for sex. I know that guys want sex, and a lot of guys play the "numbers game", but i hate when they drag me into it. because it makes me feel not good enough, in form of dating/girlfriend material.
How to deal with this? I have been working on my self estem and it has gotten way better if you compare it from how it was 2 years ago, but i still have a long way to go. How do i not make my none existent lovelife get to me as much?
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I know what your saying. I go through this as well.