Long story short, went on a first date the other day. The guy and I ended up kissing at the end of the night and everything seemed great, but I got a bit of a weird vibe from him when:
1.) He started arguing with me because I didn't want to take a taxi. I said I'd take the bus home instead (it was 2 am in the morning but I said I'd be fine - he wouldn't listen to me) He said I'd never hear from him again if I didn't take a taxi.
2.) He said that I should call him the next time a guy flirted with me. I told him a funny story of how this one guy tried to touch my hair the weekend before at an event.
3.) I got a text from a friend at 2 am and he asked me who it was. When I said it was a from a friend, he said "that's a bit late for a friend to be texting.."
4.) Whenever I looked out of the window in the restaurant, he was watching me and asking me what I was looking at.
I know I might be overthinking and could be wrong, but does he sound like he likes being a bit dominant?
Most Helpful Guy
First date and not far in this is happening with no probable cause then drop him asap.. If he caught you cheating or sexting or whatever I can see about the text thing but other than that he has issues this early on especially.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Was he ever cheated on? Or hurt in the past by women?
If so, he's bringing his issues that he hasn't yet gotten over in your relationship.
He's trying to control you because he doesn't want to get hurt again.
He needs to realize that you are not those women.
You are you !
If he's going to try to control you, he will only end up pushing you away.
In order for this relationship to have any success he has to work on his self esteem issues and allow himself to trust you.
If he can't... the relationship will eventually fail.
If this is not the reason,
I suspect he's testing you to see how much control over you he can have.
When you give it, and allow yourself to grow weak his power over you will grow stronger.
He will try to dictate a lot of your actions.
This controlling behavior will allow him to think you are his property.
The extent of this can be emotional or physical abuse.
You don't want to stick around for things to get out of hand.
IF I were you I'd sit down with him and have a serious talk.
You need to find out why he is doing the things he's doing.
You need to also stand up for yourself and let him know you are allowed to make your own decisions.
Be calm and collective, do not yell or sound aggressive.
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