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When you said you would check your schedule and get back to him, you already knew you weren't interested. I can appreciate that you want to let him down easily, but most guys don't understand subtle hints. You need to tell his guy that he's not a good match for you, and that you don't want to mislead him or waste his time. There's nothing shallow about it; if you're not interested, you're not interested. Future band rehearsals don't have to be awkward; it's really not a big deal. I have remained friends with many women who rejected me.