Well now I'm in college and I'm surrounded by people who think it's weird if I want to wait to have sex with someone and they almost make it seem like that is going to be impossible.
I have yet to have a boyfriend and I feel it's because I'm more reserved than guys here and also more mature. I have also been through a lot in my life that has caused me to have stress.
Well I started dating this guy. He is really nice and has taken me out on dates. At the same time though he also wants to have sex. I still feel like I'm getting to know him. I am not ready to have sex with him. The other day we were hanging out after a party though and I was way too drunk to stop things quick enough but he started having sex with me because I think he thought I wanted to because we were definitely messing around so I don't blame him. Well I didn't want to have sex though and I stopped it shortly after it started but I still don't think he realized why I stopped it.
He still wants to hang out with me and was really nice over text but we haven't talked about what happened. And now I feel like I don't want to see him again because it doesn't feel right for me that that happened but my friend made it seem weird that I felt this way... is it okay and normal that I feel like this?
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I'd say give it a second try. Maybe you both weren't communicating clearly enough? If it's okay for someone to enjoy acting like a pet when they have sex it's def okay for you to enjoy a deeper connection.
Everyone approaches sex in a different way and wants different things. Just accept that your wants take time to develop. There's nothing wrong with enjoying that.