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It's not hard to see why you're interested in cheating. If you find someone sexually attractive and you've developed a close bond for 9 years, obviously you're going to have some strong feelings for them. You said your friend has commitment issues and you don't believe in sex without commitment. If that's the case, then sleeping with your friend is a terrible idea even if you were single. Having sex with him will only intensify your feelings for him and then it's going to leave heartbroken and devastated when he doesn't want to commit. And then that precious friendship the two of you have is done for in the process. If you're afraid you'll cheat on your boyfriend with this close friend of yours, then that shows you're not really into your boyfriend like that, and it may be best for the both of you if you just end the relationship now. Whatever you do, don't cheat on him; nobody deserves that. How would you feel if it was the other way around?