I get told I'm not being fair how is it not fair I feel like I'm being treated as a prize to be won or a Redemption phase!
Most Helpful Guy
Yes it is unrealistic. Here are some problems:
(1.) What if the guy lost there virginity after marriage before but divorced because his wife cheated. Would it be fair to eliminate him even though he felt the same way?
(2.) What if a guy has only had sex in a committed realtionship and only does it with someone he trusts? He respects you and your body, while maybe a virgin guy that is willing to wait until marriage won't.
I can understand wanting to wait until marriage, not wanting a partner that's been around a lot, and wanting someone who tales sex seriously. However, the world doesn't follow ideals and perfections, and sometimes compromises have to be made. If I were you, I wouldn't discredit a good partner just because he isn't a virgin. Waiting until marriage is fine but would you rather be with a virgin guy that treated you half-assed or a non-virign that was loyal to you for life?1
Most Helpful Girl
There is nothing wrong with wanting to wait until marriage but to look down on someone just because they have had sex is wrong. After all there is no guarantee that you will stay married to the man that you give your virginity to so that would make you disgusting as well and you would not want anyone to see you that way if you would have to go into the dating world again. The only one treating you like a prize to be won is yourself because you don't feel that a guy is worthy of you if he is not a virgin.3