Most Helpful Girl
It's not about not looking for love altogether. What it means is that you still have to look for opportunities to meet new people but it shouldn't be your everything and the emphasis should still be on you and your happiness. It's about not losing yourself in the process of finding love because that is what happens so often. People put all their energy and happiness often in the wrong things and that's where the trouble starts.
Most Helpful Guy
First of all, don't give up, and don't stop putting yourself out there. Every guy goes through that; I know I have. As guys, we have to endure the vast majority of rejection; that's just how it is. Start out by going up and talking to girls. You might not ask them out, they might seem uninterested or even repulsed, but who cares? Just get used to talking to them. Girls are really good about picking up on your vibe; if it's negative, you'll be less successful than if you have the vibe of a guy who is comfortable in his own skin, knows what he wants, and goes for it. As cheesy as it sounds, your attitude determines your altitude. Good luck!