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You need figure out what are your goals for yourself in life and work towards getting them. Don't let others tell you whether you're a failure or not because they are judging you by their standards. But their standards are not yours. Maybe by what you think is important in life they'd actually be considered the loser. Just work on self improvement. You do that your chances with women should increase. However, no matter how hard you work at it there is a substantial amount of pure luck in the dating world. Some people just don't have the cards.