OK so my boyfriend and I are having an argument over a certain issue and I would like an outsiders opinion. My bfs brother and his fiancée just had their first baby a few weeks ago. We live in pa and they live in Virginia. My boyfriend and I have our own apartment together. We have for about a year now. His mom called and was like we should all get a hotel by Brian and Laura's house (his bro and sis in law) so we can all see the baby and we don't have to put them out by staying at their place. My boyfriend and I agreed that sounded like a perfect idea until his mom told him that she would prefer it if me and him hot separate hotel rooms because it makes her uncomfortable two unmarried people getting a hotel room together. Now keel in mind we all plan on paying for our own hotel rooms so this would cost us extra money. Not to mention ad long as it isn't done under her roof it isn't her business how we conduct our relationship as long as we aren't hurting anyone. I mean cmon we have our own place together for crying out loud. My boyfriend said he feels kind of torn because he said he doesn't want to make her uncomfortable because she has done a lot for him over the years. My rebuttal for that was well she has to get over it because it is nuts to exoyect us to fish out extra money because of her crazy outdated beliefs. I could understand more if we were staying at his moms house but we are not. I'm like no Dan you have to nicely tell your mom no Sarah and I aren't dishing out extra money because you are uncomfortable with something that makes no sense we are two grown adults who live together and I'm not making my girlfriend get her own room. Who is in the wrong here? Is it mt boyfriend for not standing behind me as a team and putting our relationship and my feelings first and acting like a mommas boy who can't stand up to mommy or am I for wanting to ho against his moms wishes and why?
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Let me start out by saying that I am a Christian so I am going to actually take his mom's side. Also it sounds like you're trying to be way too controlling of him. It's his mother for crying out loud and respecting her wishes here is most important. I understand that the money thing is an issue but maybe his mom would be willing to share some expenses? You've gotta look at it from his and his mothers point of view.2
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