My head tells me to break up with him for good, mainly because i think a man like that has no moral compass and will cheat on me if not now then definitely in the future one day. He says he has changed and is maturing and realising what is important to him and wants to be with me and marry me and have a family. My psychologist thinks he is a borderline narcissist and men like that usually cheat on their wives after the first baby and generally deep down won't change, they just try and hide it.
He has always been attentive, never left me hanging on messages or returning phone calls, and has always talked fondly of a future together, so his behaviour always confused me and left me both loving him to bits whilst also regretting the moment i met him.
So my question is - is he just trying to be or seem like the kind of man he thinks he should be? Can men who have a colourful history, or are super sexual and have blurred boundaries in the past ever REALLY change?
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I to have been in a similar situation, Guys at times have a hard time maturing, and slowley at that. There will come a time when he will settle down and leave is ways behind them, but you have to ask yourself one good question... Is it worth it? Once trust is broken its near impossible to regain. You will always question and always be worried, do you want that for either one of yourself. Its also a question of respect, if he truly loved you and respected you and the relashionship he would not of condsidred doing the things he did. Yes he continues to be nice and say the right things, but its more about making himslef feel better about the situation, and not for you. You also have to ask yourself, why him, and why are you putting yourself through this? Is he the only option... No, there are so many other men out there in the world who not ever do this, and form the sounds of it you know deep down in your heart what to do, the hard part is following through, trust me you will find out that in the end finding someone who treats you right is way better than feeling stressed out or paranoid all the time.