So, I've been dating this girl off and on for almost 3 years. Everytime we take a break she loses it and almost always goes off and gets hurt by some other guy. I don't agree with taking breaks, I believe in working things out to make things go smoothly. But, she wanted a break and it was take a break or break up for good. So, I decided to give it a couple more chances. I do love her and thats my weakness with her. Things have been really great, but lately she's grown distant and now almost everything I do is selfish to her and im trying to do everything in my power to not be considered selfish to her and go out of my way for her. I mean I know im being a pushover, but I suspect she's depressed or really burnt out from her stressful job. And she's blocked all attempts by me to show I care about her and only chooses to observe when I ask the smallest things from her. And I suspect she's been cheating on me. Either that or she wants space, which I understand. But, during that space I suspect she's cheating on me but I don't know for sure.
But, my big problem is she won't communicate with me. All she does is say im selfish, im out for myself, im no better than than the other guys and im mannipulative? I do actually care about her and she refuses to see that. She says all this stuff and labels me all these things, but gives me absolutely no explaination why she feels that way. I try to sit down and talk to her nicely and tell her how I feel and she's completely closed lips. Or she's like figure it out. Well how can I figure it out, if I have no clue what is making her feel this way? Or something im doing or acting unintentially that is bothering her. So, ladies if your mad at a guy or unhappy about how things are going, why don't you speak about it? Im willing to hear whatever she has to say and be better and understanding. I can't change myself but I can change how I act. Cause really giving up is something I don't like doing and is always a last ditch option for me.
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I see your frustration. And honestly, if she doesn't want to be open and communicate right now, she won't. You have to respect her and give her that space. But from reading this, you deserve better. You seem to be the only one putting in any effort at this point and that's not fair to you. There are plenty of girls out there who would appreciate your generosity and willingness to make a relationship work. Don't settle. Good luck!0
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