A while ago I got back into the dating scene and we decided to give it a shot. We hit it off and got together. But as soon as we did, it was like a switch flipped.
He acts like a clingy romantic novel-writer, and not in the good way... in the cheesy, bordering "too much" way.
He constantly talks to me about how we're going to be together forever, how if I died he'd kill himself just to be with me, how he could never see himself with anyone but me - he'd rather be alone than be without me. It's not only this, he can't go 5 minutes without texting me if I'm not right in his face, even if I'm just in the OTHER ROOM - including the freaking bathroom.
I hate to say it but it turns me off. He is acting like a desperate, love sick puppy who has to be attached to my hip wherever I go. He doesn't live with me, but when he stays over and I leave for work in the morning... he'll get upset if I don't wake him up to hug or kiss him - sometimes I am just running late. Literally, he called me crying asking if I hated him.
What happened to the cool, laid back guy who I connected so strongly with? Why is he acting like an over-9000 stage clinger? I like him a lot, but our relationship is so new and he's taking it too fast and getting too attached... it's been a month! I don't know that I'm even at the love stage with him yet.
How so I get him to calm down and come back down to earth without shattering his feelings? Please help me.
Most Helpful Guy
Does he have any prior relationship experience? Actually he's doing everything that girls say they want - someone who worships them, can't live without them, and gives them constant affirmation and compliments - but what's great in theory doesn't work in real life.
I can't see this working out long-term, it's too imbalanced. You can try telling him you need some space, that he's been smothering you. Say you liked the old him but he changed too much, and after one month of dating it's way too soon to be professing his undying love. But don't think there's any way he will take it well.
Most Helpful Girl
I had a situation like that. It's very overwhelming. I think you should sit down with him and reassure him that you're not going anywhere but, you need to calm the fuck down. Tell him that it's frustrating and he's being very overbearing. See what he says to that.