I met this guy through online dating. He said he's not the type that's looking for casual sex. We have so much in common that it's crazy. Our first date went by smoothly and we lost track of time just talking, no kissing or anything physical apart from hugging goodbye. He's told me he finds me attractive physically and funny and he also loves how smart I am so I felt like he liked my personality not just how I look. On the second date he mentioned that he's emotionally messed up from previous relationship and isn't looking for a relationship. He became more physical, holding my hand, rubbing my back and he tried to kiss me several times. I pulled away from him each time and told him that I don't like to move that quickly. Soon after we walked back to our cars but he didn't talk the whole way back and didn't even hug me goodbye. I'm so confused. If he doesn't want a relationship then why would he say he's not into casual hookups to begin with? I messaged him and told him I like him but that I'm not interested in anything casual and he hasn't responded so far but it hasn't been a day.
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There is also the possibility that he's still recovering from the pain experienced in his earlier relationships which has left him seeking the warmth of a woman's touch. If his pride was hurt, then he's probably too frightened to "be himself", and wait for the right moment to move in for that kiss: when it's reciprocated.
Tell him that you need depth in your relationships, so if you're going to get physically intimate, you'd have to get emotionally intimate, first. Get him to talk about his past relationships and try to figure out what went wrong with him, and how it's affecting him. See if you can help him.0