Ok so there are two guys who have asked me out and one already knows I have a kid and one doesn't. My girlfriends are all telling me not to tell the guy who doesn't know, that I have kids. To me this feels dishonest, but my friends say that it's more don't ask don't tell.
I'm sure that I'd want to know, but when I talk to my guy cousin (who is dating a girl with kids) he said that he didn't care that she didn't tell him right away because he would have left without getting to know her and then they wouldn't be together now.
The difference is that this guy is younger than me and just got accepted to a top university, my cousin was 3yrs older than his girlfriend.
I think that the guy might know because he saw me with my son at the park but when he came up to talk to me he didn't really ask so I'm not sure if maybe he just thought it was a sibling.
Anyhow, what do you guys think
- tell him the next time you see himVote A
- tell him after the dateVote B
- tell him after 3-5 datesVote C
Most Helpful Guy
I think it would be very wrong if you didn't tell him about it before the first date itself. And suppose he doesn't want top date girls with kids, then you too will be left heartbroken if he stops seeing you for this reason alone.0
Most Helpful Girl
That is the FIRST thing I ask after I ask the name. I don't ever want to waste my time with someone that has kids. What if these guys think like me? They would see you as a shitty person for hiding it. But then again they should ask that too first date.
No offense to all the single parents, that is just my preference.0