So basically he never really allowed me to look at his phone much but I always willingly let him take mine whenever he wants to check anything cause I trust him. Earlier I was with him and he blurted "I just got a match!" Then I said oh ok then he said "do you know what tindr is?" Which I was too distracted while taking out my wallet that I didn't realise he was on tinder and said "yeah duh I know" then I realised it later and now am really mad at him. He says he's sorry and that he didn't know that the app was for dating he thought it was a chat app to talk to other people that they 'liked'. Which I think is a load of crap but at the same time he seemed too desperate to lie. Is he? And what should I do? (I can't break up with him I love him too much) I'm crying sigh I'm worthless..
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I think it's highly doubtful he didn't know what tinder was and what it is used for. Since he told you about it maybe he's telling the truth but even if he had good intentions on tinder they could always lead to something worse. Either way it doesn't really matter because there's no way for you to ever know for sure so dreading about it will only hurt you. What does matter is letting him know how you feel and how much this has hurt you. If I had to guess he's on tinder because there is some emotional/physical need that he's not getting from you so he's looking other places for it. This may not be your fault but if he is uncomfortable with you in some way it's very important you find out and talk about it. Bottom line is let him know how much this hurt you, and if he has any respect for you he will stop doing things like this. I don't know enough to know if this is a toxic relationship but I know I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I feel worthless. Best of luck to ya mate1