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It's not wrong to want to be alone. However, it IS wrong to not tell your boyfriend that you're going through some stuff and that you'd prefer to be left alone for a while. How was he supposed to know what you were up to? How was he supposed to know that you were ok (physically, like not dead)? How was he supposed to know that you weren't breaking up with him or something?
Because, quite frankly, if my boyfriend ignored me on purpose for a week without explaining why, I would honestly think that this is his way of breaking up with me. That's a shitty thing to do to your partner. You are not single. You owe him an explanation. You don't have to go into details, just say something like "I'm going through some stuff that I need to figure out, I will contact you immediately when I feel better". That's the LEAST you could do. If you want to be alone without having to explain yourself to anyone, without listening to anyone, without talking to anyone, then maybe you're not mature enough for a relationship. Relationships are a lot about effort and communication. Take those away, which you did for a week without any explanation, and there is no relationship.
Like I said, you have the right to want to be alone sometimes and deal with shit on your own, but you HAVE to tell your boyfriend about it. You can't just shut him out and expect him to understand and accept that. That's simply not what you do in a relationship.1