- Your wrong 😕Vote A
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Most Helpful Guy
Apologizing while "not being wrong" won't be experienced by your boyfriend as a sincere apology. You will think you've done your part, but he'll still be pissed.
Here is an analogy for you:
Your behavior toward your boyfriend has been kind of like backing your car over the neighbor's cat. You neither intended nor sought a bad outcome, but you are still responsible for the consequences of your acts.
You really did shut out your boyfriend for a week. That really did cause him distress. You really have been minimizing your culpability here. You really did distrust your boyfriend by not informing him of your needs at the beginning of the week. You acted like he would fail you so why even bother. Telling him that you need some time alone to process some difficult news is not too much to expect from you, or at least it shouldn't be.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Put yourself in his place. How would you feel, if he was consistently ignoring you for a week?
100% guarantee you'd flip your shit and assume he's cheating or doesn't want to be with you anymore.
Yes, what you're going through is tough, but you can't just cut off your boyfriend completely without any warning and expect him to just be cool with that.
If you want to be left alone, you should have told him that from the start. Expecting him to magically know that you're not mad at him or don't want to see him again is absurd.
So yes, I'd say you're in the wrong here, as much as it sucks dealing with what you are.
However, insisting on talking and bringing up sex at this time is rather shitty of him. Very shitty, actually.
But then you said you haven't had sex in 2 months, which just points to even more problems within the relationship that I suspect both of you are at fault for.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE