Most Helpful Guy
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Most Helpful Girl
Unfortunately I understand this all too well. It's very hard to open up fully when you've been hurt so badly in the past. It really is a mindset on your end though, I've learned. It's hindsight now, but what I found helped me was just being single for a long time and focusing on myself. Being confident in yourself and being able to differentiate between being alone and being lonely are very important. That said, now that you're in a relationship now I'd say you need to focus on you here a lot. Try to remind yourself that this guy is not 'so-and-so' or 'jack off' ;) Clean slate. This guy could be great, so focus on what he does, not just what he says. If you let those liars and cheaters cloud your vision, you may project that on him and that's not fair. Dating is going to get you hurt, that's a fact. You can't be afraid of that or you'll ruin the fun in the process. So like I said, I'd spend some time with yourself and really cope with the hurt you haven't let go. People suck, it's life, their loss! Enjoy this new guy. Maybe have a girl night with friends and do one of those cliche bon fire things, burn stuff that reminds you of those old guys. It's silly, but maybe the act of it will feel good and you'll let go a little more.