I've been on two dates with this man that I met on OKC. We hit it off pretty well and we had two dates in one week. The second date ended in a sleepover. He called me the next day and I was very happy about that.
On Saturday I asked him if he want to hang out on Sunday and he told me that he was going to be busy with his children but that we would see how things went. I did not hear anything from him that day. Monday rolled around and I ended up having to contact him first, same situation on Tuesday. Wednesday I decided to test him and see if he was going to text me first and we ended up not talking that day.
I know that he can't think that this is a casual sex relationship because I explain to him in my profile and in person twice that I wanted a relationship. Just recently as two days ago he said to me, "I have so much to teach you". Like he was going to be around for a while.
I asked him on Tuesday if I was bothering him at work and he told me that Mondays and Tuesdays are his busiest days of the week. He said, "you're not bothering me at all."
If this is a slow fade then that means he's a coward and I don't want him anyway. He could have at least said something since we did have sex and he said that he had no problem telling someone that it's not going to work out.
Do you think this is a slow fade?
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I agree that you have every right to contact him, since you had sex. Personally the speed of this brand new 'romance' seems a bit fast, so it's possible he got what he wanted and is bailing now. What did he say on HIS profile? Was he looking for a relationship? Either way, I don't think it sounds like a fade at all. He called the next day which is good, and you know Mon and Tues are really busy for him. At this point, since you don't really know him all that well, you could either be paranoid and untrusting or you can give him the benefit of the doubt and believe him, since you have no reason NOT to trust him... yet. Give it time, go out and keep busy, let him come to you. If you don't hear from him in a few days then reach out. Good luck!1
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