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Two things I've witnessed in seeing peers both in my 20's and later:
- the presence of a child in your life means you just can't be the same sort of dating partner someone without could be. You can do casual hook up. You can get -serious- which likely means being involved in the child's life. It's hard to do in between.
- for any guy looking for more than hooking up, who doesn't have kids, its a major major thing. I have kids. I love them like crazy. If I was to split with my partner, I'd probably rather date someone WITH kids since we'd understand each other better. But I think single people... I can really see why they wouldn't jump into dating someone with kids. It's a big deal.
Put it together, you'll find guys looking for hookups won't care and will keep approaching you. Guys NOT looking for just a hookup, a bunch will be scared off. And those who aren't scared off will probably make a yes/no decision on getting serious very fast - which might mean guys stopping dating you sooner.
At some point in your life many of the guys you might be dating (if you're not in a serious relationship at that point) will have kids themselves, but you're a fair way from that point, unless you date -much- older.