We've been friends for 2.5 years. Admitted we had an attraction last summer when he had gotten back from Afghanistan. He also lost about 70lbs. I've always liked him, even when he was heavier. When we finally admitted our attraction, I was in was in the middle of a break up. Started dating 2 mos ago. He hasn't had a girlfriend or sex for over 2yrs before me. He's said he's the guy who is friends with all the girls but no one wants to be his girlfriend until me. He joked he has a face for radio, lol. I'm crazy about him. He's awesome. I've met his parents and family. They are all excited about us. Went to NYC for Memorial Day weekend. Had a blast! Now he's become withdrawn and said we need to slow down and he's cursed w/ women. Says he's still into me but doesn't know if he's scared or what. He wants to keep dating and he does like me but he's messed up and isn't ready to call me his girlfriend. He also said I'd have to fight to keep him out of my life but he needs a break. What should I do or say? I'll be heartbroken if this falls apart. I don't want to pressure him or be that crazy woman. Help!!
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It's sad that he is only friends with girls just to get with them like other guys... can't they just not fake their friendship and actually just BE friends with a girl? I hate to tell you but it definitely doesn't sound good... 99% of the time when guys say "i need a break" or "i need space" they mean "i want a relationship but not with you", if he does this to all his "female friends" i think it's his own fault because he sends mixed signals, comes on hot and heavy then goes distant... you don't do that... i can see why your confused, id honestly be hesistant to trust a guy who does that because it then makes me doubt if he actually likes me. Id honestly back away and make him chase you now because he seems to want you to keep chasing him, turn the tables on him and make him feel what it's like to keep worrying if you like him or not, if he doesn't bite and just goes completely withdraw it's obvious he never really liked you, if he doesn't then you can see what his problem is with ruining all his "friendships" with girls then wasting their time...3
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