I've been talking to a guy I met online for 4 months now, we've been on 5 dates. He's always online, I actually created a fake account and contacted him... he pretty much insists he doesn't have a girlfriend and he wants to have a little bit of fun before committing to someone. We are both 24.
He keeps telling me I'm everything he wants... smart, beautiful, kind, funny, and independent. He is also making a lot of plans for "us" for the future, like dates, getaways, activities, etc. We have kissed and hugged pretty passionately, but he insists he doesn't want to get into my pants, and we are not girlfriend and boyfriend yet. Thus guy doesn't have many girls as friends, and is kind of unpopular with the ladies apparently.
you guys, I'm so confused. I need your opinions and advice real bad. I want to move on to something else either with him or someone else. Thanks!
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You only went on 5 dates? That would be a greater concern. The way you transition is firstly Dont be physical until he establishes what type of relationship you have. Then start a casual conversation but do NOT ask him question after question. You are not a nag or desperate. You simply tell him what you want and need in a relationship. "Right now i want a guy who i have steqdy weeke d olabs with. I want a man who calls the day after a date. I want a man who isn't looking on line for his nect date because he knows its with some one great already. ME!" and then ask him whathe is looking for. Ask him how he feels about your wants and needs. After an exchange of ideas and not a simple grilling session, then tell him you think he's great but you dont want to settle for less. Tell him you are open to him being this person but you do want what you want. If he follows threw then you'll have it. Or he may just say he's not into that. In ehoch case he may walk away. Either way, this sort of structured conversationqtion where he doesn't feel attacked, interrogated or pressured to say the right thing, you are more likely to get honest answers. Good luck0