Okay so I'm 15 and a sophomore I've never gotten asked out or kissed nothing and I'm really shy around guys I never know what to talk about when were alone or when we're texting I don't have many guy friends either but the couple that I do have barely ever want to keep the convo going. I feel so pathetic and like I'm never going to find someone cause I never know what to talk about and always have to start the convo I don't want to be with out a boyfriend forever like please.. Any tips? And please don't say just be yourself cause I don't know how the real me is super quiet and that doesn't make friends or romantic interests
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The reason ThisDudeHere knew that is because everyone feels the same way. We wear masks to fit in and our personalities naturally change from social setting to social setting. Here's what you talk about with guys, THEM! Ask questions, don't judge the answers. In improv comedy we have a rule. it is called :"YES, and..." what ever someone says to you, acknowledge it as having worth even if you don't agree, then add something specific to the conversation.
You-Got any plans this weekend?
Him-might go fishing with my brother.
you-that sounds fun.(this is the "yes" part) My dad is always trying to get me to go with him. (this is the "and..." part where you add a specific detail.
This is an oversimplification, and you can look up Improv techniques or take a class. It really helps you come out of your shell and make you at ease in social situations!0