I am going to be a senior in high school and have had a boyfriend for 4 months. The other day he asked me when I thought we would first have sex, even though I've told him several times I'd rather wait until we've been dating a year/are graduating from high school. I told him that sex is a big deal for me, and I won't have it until I can see having a somewhat certain future with someone. Once I said that he said "I thought if we made it a year that we would date in college." As if he was surprised that I didn't know he wanted to date in college. I'm worried he is just saying that we have a future because he wants to have sex. After he said we should date through college because he "wants me for as long as I'll have him," he told me that condoms are reliable and blah blah blah. Its not like we dont do anything now. We do oral stuff and its fun, shouldn't that be enough for now? And does he actually want a future or no?
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Dude, just spread. It's not like holding back makes you a superior Christian or a chaste woman. He's not gonna dump you the next day.
He's probably more worried about losing you after high school than you are. After all, women are always on the lookout for a more alpha male. What is High school is probably just practice for you? Is he not your actual boyfriend?
Just do it after prom like in the movies. Isn't that what everybody wants? To live in a teen sex comedy?1