I met this guy, and we hit it off pretty well for a few weeks. he was very affectionate, helpful and genuine without seeming like a pushy player. one night, after going out, we ended in bed together. i thought nothing serious of it, but the next day, he started holding hands, putting his arm around my waist, kissing again, when sitting at the table his put his arm on my seats backrest etc. complimenting me all the time, all in public and also when being around his best friend.
we spent the entire weekend like this.
I was like, "that was a nice weekend, if we see each other again?", but he was like "let's see". wow, I just found out he has a girlfriend! His defense is that he didn't promise me anything, he acted irrational, why am I so upset? obviously, I am not gonna pursue further, but I guess I just want to think that at least I meant sth to him or that this behavior was indeed not normal? I mean he could have had the sex and left without all this affectionate BS?
his friend said that he really has issues with his girlfriend and is not a player.
by the way. he keeps writing me messages...
what do you think? any experts?
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I'm like that guy. I want to have my cake and eat it. I want to fuck around and I'm so insecure/dependant on female validation that I immediately start to say crap like that even though I don't really mean it.
You guys had sex, and that released oxytocin in his brain, so now he has a soft spot for you, but it was still only sex to him.
Besides, he cheated on his f***ing girlfriend with you!
What more evidence do you need that this guy is a player, even though he may be immature and clueless about it?
He's using you and his girlfriend to get what he wants, and he has no idea what it is.1
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