So long story short, im kind of torn between two amazing guys, each one offering different traits and hence, paths in my life. I am currently 18, a senior in highschool and graduating in a few months. Basically, I was with my ex (lets call him Jack) for over 2 years and I practically grew up with him. We broke up due to him having to move countries. But we kept in touch and are still 'inlove' though not necessarily together. However, recently I've been having really strong feelings towards a guy (lets call him Tom) and Im not sure where to go from here. I made a bit of a pros and cons list
-I know he trully loves and cares about me (vice versa)
-Safer option (ive known him for longer and vice versa)
-I completly trust him
-He is older (he is 22)
-Long Distance (physical contact is very important to me)
-I see him everyday (Same school)
-I dont know him that well
-Might just be lust (i miss my ex/looking for an excuse not to get back together with ex)
-Short termed (he won't last past highschool)
- Guy one (Jack)Vote A
- Guy two (Tom)Vote B
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How long is Jack in that other country? Is there any possibility of him coming back or you going there? Are you sure Jack isn't having the same dillema about you and "Sarah" (the oh-so-hot foreign girl there)?
Anyway, you're just 18. You still have a lot to live. Do not overthink too much. If you feel like Tom is better for you (hardly, as he will be just like a 'passtime' as you said he will not last longer than a couple of months), go for him.
Keep in mind just this: do not play with other people's hearts and feelings, please, but be honest to yourself always.0