I know I am going to get a lot of hate from this;however, it is true. I used to be the person who'd say, 'Not my relationship'. Well, now I am one of the people who actually agree. I do not see myself having a relationship that is actually worth my time right now.
Most Teenagers Don't Really Know What They Want
One minutes they want to become a model the next an astronout (they don't even know anything about being one!). The best time to date is when you are older and know what you want. Who wants to be tied down right now when there's so much to see and do?
Most teenagers are very unrealistic with their relationship. They think they're Romeo and Juilet. 'Omg, I will die for you!' Haha! I am not going to die for you. You know you're in a crazy relationship when... lol
Enjoying your freedom now will mean lots when you're in a relationship. If you do get in one- you don't have to plan your whole life out right now, or ever- you should have stories to tell your stories to tell your spouse. Besides crazy relationship stories...
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds like you want all relationships to be forever, and if they're not then they're not worth your time. Like any relationship needs to be some long term commitment based on invested energy, etc. But that's not how romance works... we don't get more out of it long term if we keep investing... I see many women stay in horrible relationships for this error in thinking.
The value of any relationship is how it makes you feel NOW, not how much time you've put into it. If things have changed it's okay to change the relationship.
But I can promise you this... there is a much happier way to enjoy life. And that's to appreciate each relationship, romantic or otherwise, as being wonderful and beautiful as long as they last. And expecting them to last for ever is childish and illogical. Becoming attached to a relationship is to ensure pain and suffering.
That doesn't mean we should never get married or plan on being with someone for ever, I'm just saying that it's okay for some relationships to end.
The key to happiness is to enjoy and appreciate the honest loving relationships that we choose and develop, while accepting that people change and that's okay.
I had amazing best friends in school when I was growing up and those were the happiest times of my life. Even the brief romantic relationships that pop'd up, and quickly ended. Because they filled me with excitement and love and happiness, even if only briefly. And even though I'm not friends with most of my school friends that doesn't mean I should never have made any friends, that's silly.
I hope you realize that it's our ego's that wants things to never change. Let go of the ego and relax... the love and pleasure out weighs any pains when dealing with romance. It's always worth it.
But that's just my opinions.
Most Helpful Girl
Haha, yeah, dating as a teenager usually doesn't result in a lasting relationship. But I'm still really glad that I did it, because it helped me figure out more precisely what kind of guys I'm looking for, which personality traits I need to avoid, stuff like that. And there's something about the structure of life during the high school years that feels more supportive and safe than later on. Just my opinion, though.1