I just went on a fifth date at the movies with a guy I've been dating for about three weeks now (he's 25 and I'm 22). We went to see an awful horror movie, then had some dinner. When we went out to our cars, he shyly motioned for a hug and I held him tight, and when I started to pull away he started to lean in a few times but kept hesitating.. and he looked a bit confused (I was also a bit perplexed at this point) and nervous, and he looked away and said "yeah, I was going to ah.. kiss you" and he sort of just stood there nervously. So without thinking, I stepped up and kissed him- held for like 5-6 seconds, pulled away to gauge his reaction, and leaned in to kiss again before pulling away again. After I pulled back that last time, he let out a breathless"Wow.. that was awesome" and smiled coyly at me. Honestly, I didn't expect him to try for it since he doesn't like PDA (our first hug was in a mall parking lot on our third date- I initiated and he seemed uncomfortable) and I was even starting to doubt that he liked me. But yeah, I've only ever kissed one other guy before and don't have really much experience.. but I guess I did something right. It's funny, because actually kissing him came so naturally and I wasn't even the slightest bit nervous about it when the time finally came to do it.
But yeah- what goes through your mind and how do you feel? How long do you guys usually wait to go for a kiss, and how do you go about it? Do you bring it up beforehand or just go for it? And if you do wait to kiss someone, what would your reason be?
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There's usually a moment I look for, it's when a woman is really looking at you that I've gone in. Sometimes it's been the woman who was the first one to initiate and I would always reciprocate. There's no real time frame I ever put on it though because if I'm not feeling anything, I'm not just going to go in for a kiss either but I do always let it happen if done to me. But it's definitely nerve wracking if you do it early because you're effectively making out with a stranger you know little about. Maybe other guys operate differently but I like to be affectionate with girls who I'd consider friends so at least a few dates seems acceptable but I know some women want to kiss way faster.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE