I just went on a fifth date at the movies with a guy I've been dating for about three weeks now (he's 25 and I'm 22). We went to see an awful horror movie, then had some dinner. When we went out to our cars, he shyly motioned for a hug and I held him tight, and when I started to pull away he started to lean in a few times but kept hesitating.. and he looked a bit confused (I was also a bit perplexed at this point) and nervous, and he looked away and said "yeah, I was going to ah.. kiss you" and he sort of just stood there nervously. So without thinking, I stepped up and kissed him- held for like 5-6 seconds, pulled away to gauge his reaction, and leaned in to kiss again before pulling away again. After I pulled back that last time, he let out a breathless"Wow.. that was awesome" and smiled coyly at me. Honestly, I didn't expect him to try for it since he doesn't like PDA (our first hug was in a mall parking lot on our third date- I initiated and he seemed uncomfortable) and I was even starting to doubt that he liked me. But yeah, I've only ever kissed one other guy before and don't have really much experience.. but I guess I did something right. It's funny, because actually kissing him came so naturally and I wasn't even the slightest bit nervous about it when the time finally came to do it.
But yeah- what goes through your mind and how do you feel? How long do you guys usually wait to go for a kiss, and how do you go about it? Do you bring it up beforehand or just go for it? And if you do wait to kiss someone, what would your reason be?
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If it's the right kiss, what he said is something I think... Wow. I'm usually pretty excited and calm at the same time because the first kiss is over with and I don't have to worry about it anymore. I also like the moment after the first kiss, your eyes meet and either the date ends or you go again but with more passion. Happened to me recently, it felt pretty great. :-)
I usually try to get the first kiss on a first date. If not, then the second date. I usually pull her into me, letting her know by that motion that I want her. I don't bring it up beforehand because it loses its moment... I think anyway... That first kiss is something she'll remember for quite some time. No pressure, right? ha ha! If I wait for that first kiss, it's because I was too nervous and/or need a second date to feel her out.0
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