My girlfriend and I are in our 20s. We talk every morning our way to work and at night before she goes to sleep (she says she can't go to sleep without hearing my voice). We have been going out 5 months now but I've noticed we hardly text anymore during the day. When we first started to go out, we would text throughout the day and talk on the phone at night for hours. Now (the last month or so), we talk until she falls asleep around 12am (instead of 3/4am like before) and we text occasionally (sometimes my texts go unanswered/dismissed). She's told me that's she's busy at work lately and I know she is. I've seen how hectic it is at her job when I swing by to pick her up for dinner and I am busy too at my job most of the time. Not to mention, she would tell me she wants to see me and misses me a lot. Nowadays, I'll get a picture here and there, she still tells me that she misses me and constantly tells me that she loves me. It feels like unless I tell her let's go somewhere, we don't go out. I'm very independent but it sometimes feels I'm putting in more effort. She is very close to her family and spends time with them. Sometimes it feels like I'm playing second fiddle to them and she cancels plans to be with them. I would think, since we talk about what life will be like married and all, that I would be higher on the totem pole. Is this normal?
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Uh, i like a guy to show he's into me. I know there should always be a half way/shared thing but honestly, i was VERY into my ex, i still didn't make the effort to text. I needed to know he was into me because he didn't show it well in other ways. He never took me out on a date/bought me anything occasionally and always texted later on when he was bored so i felt very unnapreciated and point blank refused to make first contact with him because i refused to chase him. He told me to do this but, honestly, i gave him everything else, i felt so, so used. I ended up dumping him because i felt like he wasn't into me and i was correct. Fuck texting. Take her out, make the effort, chase her, buy her something nice (it DOESN'T have to be expensive) show her in different ways rather than be concerned with texting. Also, family are always more important than boyfriends. Unless you are her husband, that isn't a big issue. I think you both should organise dates, go out and after a few weeks, if the issue isn't resolved then talk to her, if it still is a problem after speaking to her then you may be better off with someone else if it bothers you that much.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE