I am really at my wits end with men. It seems like all I attract are guys that want to use me and lie. I tried dating someone new and it was someone I've known for a long time who went to my church when we were younger. He told me he has the biggest crush on me and he told me he was single, but then I seen on Facebook that he we out with his baby mom. I just dont get it. Why would he text me all day, get upset if I didn't get to his text right away only to be back with his baby mom again? Not to mention the guy I posted about before keeps blowing my phone up asking me for money. I dont get it. Why is it that I can't find a guy that actailly wants to be with me instead of playing games and hurting me? I feel like I should just give up on dating all together or start dating women or something. I really want a meaningful relationship with someone but it seems like for some reason thats not happening with me. All of the females in my family and my female friends are all in relationships talking about how happy they were and I haven't been in a relationship in 4 years since my son's dad and he doesn't even talk to me anymore unless its about out child. I really feel like I'm just not meant to be with a man or something. What is so wrong with me that guys dont like me? I work full time I go to school, I have my own car and money and take care of my child. I dont understand why?
Most Helpful Guy
There is really nothing wrong with quitting when it comes to relationships and dating. Well from my perspective anyway. If someone wants to challenge me on this fine, but it's pretty redundant since I've more or less given up on it myself. I hate those people who ALWAYS judge and give people that are NOT in relationships a hard time and expect every single person on the planet to conform to "their" way. And just because all the ladies in your family and social circle claim they are "happy" in their relationships I very much doubt it's 100%, I wouldn't even worry about them unless they started harassing you and giving you a hard time for not being in a successful relationship as you already have tried on so many occasions and so far nothing has turned out the way you expected or hope it would.
That's just the reality of it. There are no guarantees of success or happiness when it comes to relationships, it may even work out great in the beginning and then things go complete downhill before you realized it. That can also happen for pretty much everything else too. Just do the best with what you can and what you have and go about your daily routines.
Focus on other more important matters instead at this point. Since you are a mother now, I think it would be best to divert more focus, attention and resources on your child and so that he will grow and develop positively. Also since you are in school would it not be better to just focus on your education and career. Sometimes you just cannot have it all. If you have a successful career and your son grows up successful in school and have a successful career Because of You and what You Did then I think that's more than enough and all that really mattered.
For relationships, if they work out, they work out, if not, then just prioritize something else you can get done or have a better chance of accomplishing. I know it hurts and all, but you just have to move forward and not dwell on it, or it will hurt more and more. I'm sure many people and not just you have been there already if not at least once in their entire lifetime.1
Most Helpful Girl
Stop looking. Stop trying. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. You sound like you have it together in terms of your life. It takes a strong man to accept that and be comfortable with a beautiful woman who is managing just fine without a man. You WILL find someone, it just seems so difficult sometimes. Are you actually in a good position to meet them? I know i'm not but i think, if i was, i'd probably have someone by now. I think you will be just fine, be thankful that you have a good life, enjoy your child and everything else will fall into place, i promise.2