I've had such bad dating experiences lately with guys I actually cared for and started to feel jaded so I took a break from dating. But it's been quite a few months and it seems I'm still if not more jaded than before. How do you get out back into the game... I don't feel pressure but I'm so turned off when it comes to meeting and going out on dates but I don't want to be lonely. Advice? Personal experience?
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I felt like that for a while after experiencing my very first real heartbreak. He turned my daily life into a damn Bruno Mars song -_-
I think that the remedy for being jaded is acceptance, forgiveness, and self-love.
First you have to accept the circumstances as they are and accept the fact that your greatest hopes and dreams for that romance are just not going to happen. You have to accept that whatever you two had is currently futureless.
Then you have to find it in yourself to forgive him and forgive yourself for whatever you or he may have done to cause irreparable damage, harm your self-esteem, make you cry, make you boil with anger, and take away your passion for dating. This one can take a long time but it’s crucial to try your best to forgive because if you don’t then you’re agreeing to stay tethered to the heartache. Forgiveness will bring you a sense of internal freedom.
Lastly, you really need to practice self-love; truly nurture your mind, body, soul, and heart. START DATING YOURSELF FIRST. Be the type of woman that is enjoyable on all levels and beautiful even in her private moments. Heal whatever heartache you’re going through and take good care of your own heart making sure to protect it yet not clip it’s wings.
It’s also really helpful to not take yourself too seriously! Don’t take yourself so seriously and don’t take dating so seriously either. Have a more fun, lighthearted, curious approach to dating and less of a “if this doesn’t work out, I’m curling up into a ball in the corner and dying.” approach. Don’t have any expectations from men unless they verbally make a commitment or outright tell you what they intend to do and even then don’t take it seriously unless their actions CONSISTENTLY back it up.1