So it's been on my mind a lot cause i'm 20 years old and she is my first girlfriend and like for the past week i been thinking about sex. I known her for a year now. I think it would great to have sex cause she is a virgin, now the problem is i'am not sure if she is ready but further more do you think i should ask for sex 3 weeks into the relationship or am rushing too fast?
I'am just so happy with her and want to take things to the next step, but is 3 weeks ok or will she get bad and break up with me? What do you think?
Most Helpful Girl
If you're starting to think about it then maybe start small, when you're making out grab her chest and sides, rub her crotch over clothes and see if she does the same. Some girls will take this as a hint that you want a blowjob and if she's never done it before it may be weird for her.
Continue doing this over a few days and start going further, like maybe going into her pants with your hand over underwear and then under, see how she responds to being touched and if she seems eager for it. Try and finger her and see what her reaction is, if she's a cirgin shell probably be nervous and or right so just use one finger at first. Make sure she's wet and get the wetness on a finger first before you put it in, ddt fingers hurt. Go slow and if she likes that take it out and ask if she wants a second finger. If she does then rub your fingers together to get them both wet and do it with two. Make sure she likes it and if she uses her hand to guide you take that as a good sign!
When you guys are comfortable doing this third add stuff then maybe talk about doing it. Maybe just get naked and cuddle for the hell of it so you can get comfortable around each other while naked, then make out and do sexy stuff while naked.
Take this gradually, but just because it's been three weeks doesn't mean it's 'too' early.4THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Most Helpful Guy
Do NOT ask her for sex. You guys are young and the relationship is still very new and exciting! Don't mess it up by putting that much pressure in her. Her being a virgin is NOT what makes sex great!
Sexual intimacy is suppose to happen spontaniously. Both people need to be in the right frame of mind and under the right circumstances. If it doesn't just happen on it's own then do NOT force it. Timing is so essential for sex to be wonderful. You are both inexperienced and if your not careful you could ruin a good thing. So enjoy the relationship as it is for now.
Don't worry! If it's right, then it will happen. ON ITS OWN!2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE