Most Helpful Guy
Leave that pedophile immediately!!! no 35 year old guy should be seeing a 18 year old. No matter what he says never have sex with him it will only encourage other pedophiles like him on the internet to try and date teenagers so that when they turn 18 they can legally fuck them. You are not ready for a baby at 19 there is a big reason that he never gave you his feed back because when your 20-21 he will leave you for another 18 year old. He should be caring for his 11 year old not looking for a new wife. Talk to his exwife if you have any doubts.0
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Most Helpful Girl
I am a believer that age doesn't matter. Age will be an issue if you let it be one. I myself usually dated older men from the time I was 16 onward. Biggest age gap at one point was 22 years. An age gap is also kind of sexy, and you can have fun with it together in and out of bed. But aside from that, where your minds are at and what you have in common no matter what the age is what matters - only after respect and trust.
The only thing that is a bit of a drag is what other people either say right to your faces or the reactions you get from people. Eventually, this goes away with friends and family who are accepting and notice how happy you are together. But through your relationship, the looks from people you don't know may continue and a lot of couples in different situations have to go through this nonsense. For example, I'm in an interracial marriage and my husband is older, so we go through this daily. But we learned the art of ignoring. We are usually too lost in what we're doing together to really care.
You seem like you know what you want and know what you're doing, so if your heart is already in to this, then go for it. :) Step-daughters are never easy at any age, so you might want to do some research on what approach will work for you when you meet her. Remember she already has a mother, you will be another adult in her life, and in some ways you might be a lot more cool to turn to if she needs advice, so maybe think more of the beginning of your relationship with her as friendship. Eleven year-olds aren't stupid. They are very well aware of what's going on, so if you want to get on her good side right away, don't insult her ability to understand.
Lots of luck! I hope it works out for you. :)2