Hello everyone, me and my guy has been dating a little over two weeks now. I'm 18 I'll be 19 in September, and he'll be 35 in three days. I know there is a huge age difference between us but I feel like I have been through a lot involving men and I've learned a lot so now I'm ready for marriage and a baby in the near future. I'm ready for a very committed and serious relationship and I've told him that but he never really gave me his feedback. I really like him, and after the first day of meeting (we met on online) we've both made it clear that we are feeling love for each other. Not only is there a huge age gap between us but there is also a kinda huge living distance between us. I live in central Jersey and he lives in north Jersey. He has an 11 year old daughter as well but she doesn't live with him. But me and his daughter's age difference is awkward. I haven't met her yet though. Anyway so I want to know you guys and girls opinion on this. Do you think the relationship will go anywhere serious? Because I'm starting to think that he just loves that I'm so young and having sex w/me is exciting also because of my age and its just a fling but he assured me that we are more than a fling but I don't think he really looks at me being long term. What is your feedback? Thank you everyone for your input.
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I am a believer that age doesn't matter. Age will be an issue if you let it be one. I myself usually dated older men from the time I was 16 onward. Biggest age gap at one point was 22 years. An age gap is also kind of sexy, and you can have fun with it together in and out of bed. But aside from that, where your minds are at and what you have in common no matter what the age is what matters - only after respect and trust.
The only thing that is a bit of a drag is what other people either say right to your faces or the reactions you get from people. Eventually, this goes away with friends and family who are accepting and notice how happy you are together. But through your relationship, the looks from people you don't know may continue and a lot of couples in different situations have to go through this nonsense. For example, I'm in an interracial marriage and my husband is older, so we go through this daily. But we learned the art of ignoring. We are usually too lost in what we're doing together to really care.
You seem like you know what you want and know what you're doing, so if your heart is already in to this, then go for it. :) Step-daughters are never easy at any age, so you might want to do some research on what approach will work for you when you meet her. Remember she already has a mother, you will be another adult in her life, and in some ways you might be a lot more cool to turn to if she needs advice, so maybe think more of the beginning of your relationship with her as friendship. Eleven year-olds aren't stupid. They are very well aware of what's going on, so if you want to get on her good side right away, don't insult her ability to understand.
Lots of luck! I hope it works out for you. :)2