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Move on, meet another girl because she's too invested in the guy (four years). Date other girls, it will help. Stop talking to her completely. No contact whatsoever. Then if she really is serious, she knows she doesn't have you and she can't because you have too much self respect to encourage her to cheat on her boyfriend and put you in the backburner.
You already let her know what she must do for you to accept her. Don't block her, just don't contact her for two months. She will contact you, don't worry. She'll miss you and contact you when she's bored, horny, or in need of financial or emotional support. Don't give it to her. Being too busy. With other important things in your life and you dating other girls will give her the biggest hint that you are serious. Tell her that you're giving her 3 months to decide and break it off with the boyfriend if she wants to be with you.
So stop talking to her, and tell her to call you when she's broken up and she's ready to move on . (You don't want her to be crying on your shoulder about breaking up with her bfn). Let her go through it alone and give her a chance. Slowly, when she calls you.
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