Recently, I've been seeing and hearing a lot about relationships where the guy or girl are together, but one or both don't want to eventually settle down with one another or one or both aren't committed. I've seen it more with guys than girls. Is this really that common? What's the point of being in a relationship with someone, if you don't see a future with them and there's no commitment?
Most Helpful Guy
I had 28 girlfriends before I was married, only two definitely just wanted sex/entertaining company. With another two it was not clear what they wanted. The rest were all expecting a relationship with a future as you put it. Which is why I got out as soon as I decided I wouldn't consider marrying them. I didn't want to waste their time.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
I'm in that sort of situation atm. We've been together for a while, 1.5 years so far. Things are generally good in terms of how we get along on a day to day basis, not to mention sexually as well.
He's mentioned times as side comments that he doesn't see marriage in his future. That he doesn't see the point of it, it's expensive, etc.. He'll later assure me that he just meant that he doesn't see it in the NEAR future, but once he gets his shit together he does want to settle down. Or that he's working so much atm to save money for just that in the future. He's aware that I'm all for getting married so.. I'm super tempted to just ask him why he's with me if he sees no long term potential. Am I just a placeholder then? That's been bugging me a lot in the past month or so as we're not getting any younger. I'm just not sure how to bring it up without seeming crazy or sort of scaring him off, despite myself not planning on getting married for a few years too.
I'd just like to know that I have some potential security in the future, y'know?0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE