I am 23 years old. I have had girlffriends before but not many, I look around me and i see a lot of peoplehaving one night stands and sleeping around and that.
I find myself at a cross road, if i am missing out on just hooking up or biding my time for a meaningful relationship.
I am single at the moment. I know comparing one self to others isn't a good thing.
I am just confused to the fact if i should start hooking up with girls only or wait for a relationship and just keep meeting new people.
I sometimes feel i am missing out by not hooking up like most people my age are or if i am giving into peer pressure.
Any advice or other perspective will help thanks.
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think there is a "should" or "shouldn't". It just depends on what you want, what you enjoy, what you feel comfortable with, etc.
Personally, I prefer long-term relationships, but if I'm single, then I'm open to hooking up as well. I've also had casual sex turn into a long-term relationship because we discovered that we really liked each other and were very compatible. I suppose you could say that my approach to sex, dating, and relationships is to take things as they come, enjoy them for what they are, and not try to force my interactions/relationships with people to fit a specific mould.
I have no idea if what you're feeling is just peer pressure, or something you genuinely want to do.
I guess a few questions:
1. What are your views on sex and relationships, morally speaking?
2. Do you feel that you need to have an emotional connection with someone in order to be comfortable having sex with them? (If you don't know, then one suggestion might be to give it a try and see whether or not it's for you).
I suppose one thing to keep in mind is that, while men tend to be judged less harshly for having casual sex, there still are plenty of women who aren't interested in having relationship with someone who has had casual sex or a high number of partners, so that may influence your choice.
Also, I wonder why you ask "Should I be hooking up with girls ONLY?" I mean, why does it have to be just one or the other?0
Most Helpful Guy
It's better to keep meeting new people and wait for the right girl to have a relationship with, cause that way, you'll fall in love and feel so much happier than just hooking up. And it's also more meaningful if you're in an actual relationship.0