Why didn't she accept my gift on the first date?
What Girls Said 1
She's not your girlfriend yet, and is still fishing around talking to guys. She's allowed to do that, unless she's made it clear she wants exclusivity between you. Otherwise, she's weighing out her online options and you should be prepared that she may choose you over all others because you were the winner, or she will choose someone else for what ever her reasons may be. Online dating is a horrible tool to use when you gauge where you two stand. There is too much ability to see who's online and if they're sending winks and gifts and what not. If you can't take it, you should really just try and meet a girl offline.
She likely felt a bit of obligation for taking your gift, especially without really knowing you. Perhaps she felt that if she accepted it means she would feel pressure to give you something back or see you again when she's not prepared to, and didn't want it to come across as just using you and taking something you bought and running away with it. How would it seem if she took it and then started dating someone else? Most guys are jerks about stuff like that these days and piss and moan that they want their gift back if the girl doesn't start seeing them or breaks up with them.
You're on such delicate ground right now with this girl that it's just impossible to tell until she gets off that site and makes it clear that she only wants to date you, or she's off the site and wants to date someone else.
I think right now, she's acknowledging how soon things would progress and is carefully taking her time so as not to make a quick decision on what she wants to do. At this moment, she belongs to no one, you shared a date, she was polite enough to text you to thank you - sheesh not many people even do that! - so it sounds like she's so far a nice person and not to lose hope. If she denies seeing you again and isn't responding after nearly a week, forget it, and my suggestion is to meet someone the old fashioned way -- offline.1
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